Word of the week

My word of the week this week is

quiet

Three of my lot, the 17, 15 and 12 year olds have been away, they are on a church camping trip from last monday to this sunday and my house has been quiet.
You don’t realise just how much noise they make until they aren’t there (particularly the 12 year old).
It has been nice to have a few less people to wait on hand and foot parent this week but actually the quiet in the house is just too much.
I know and Im very happy that they always have a lot of fun on church trips but I cannot wait until sunday afternoon when the house will be full
Of noise and people calling “muuuuuuum” again.

The Reading Residence

Word of the week

My word this week has to be

relax

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It was a long school year, with a horrible beginning, I don’t want to go on about it because its over but autism + Ollies old school = dreadful tells you all you need to know.I have spent much of the year fighting for an asd placement, meetings appointments etc, as well as that the 16 year old took her GCSE exams and then the general hoo ha that comes with having kids in school, the 5:30 alarm, packed lunches, uniforms ( washing them, ironing then, getting them ready) signing notes and forms, its all over school is out for summer, I can relax knowing that Ollie has a placement in an asd unit for september, knowing the 5:30 alarm can be turned off, I dont have to worry about packed lunch or uniforms or anything to do with school.
We can all relax catch up on some sleep, get some sunshine, do stuff together, go to bed too late. We have time we dont have to be anywhere, so we can be wherever we like, there are no meetings, no appointments, just time.
It was a tough school year but we all got through it, now we can breathe and relax

The Reading Residence

Word of the week

My word of the week is

proud

I think I have a lot to be proud of, when this school year started we were in an impossible situation with Ollie at school, his school had no idea how to look after him, and wouldn’t accept there was anything wrong. Being at school was damaging him, I was crying every time I had to leave him there, and I was being called to collect him early every day, by november he was only allowed in school for 3 hours a week.
While that was going on I was fighting for his autism diagnosis, which I got after a lot of blood sweat and tears. I then decided to take him out of school, There was no way I could continue allowing Ollie to be damaged like that, I went against the advice of education welfare and deregistered him. I allowed him a few months to be at home, to recover, while we waited for his statement to be finalised. Then I started looking for schools, we were assigned a case worker by pupil services who proved to be less than helpful so I contacted parent partnership who helped me a great deal, they pushed for a date for Ollies case to go to panel and helped me find suitable schools, I found a local school with an ASD unit and on the morning of the panel meeting I viewed it, I phoned and asked for the meeting to be interrupted so I could name the school and just half an hour later was given the news that I had been successful, Ollie has visited the school with me four times now, he had a wonderful afternoon there which I wrote about here and Im confident that it is the perfect school for Ollie , I know september will be a challenge, settling him in properly but I’m so proud of how far we have come and what I achieved for Ollie, it wasn’t easy and at times the stress almost broke me but I did it .

Thats not all though, my eldest has finished uni with a degree in physics, the 17 year old has finished his first year in college doing his level one diploma in plumbing he passed every exam but one with a distinction, the other with a merit.
Considering that he had a rough patch (to put it mildly) at school in year 11, his only ” achievement” being the record for lowest attendance, he has done amazingly well.
Also…the 16 year old has done her gcses, she is expected to have achieved very high grades, since she broke up from school she has done her silver duke of Edinburgh expedition, and is doing work experience (football coaching related) every day, shes doing long hours and still going to football training in the evenings, I must mention that the 12 and 14 year olds also had brilliant school reports.
Its been a long touch school year but my kids have done me proud ! 😊

The Reading Residence

Word of the week

My word of the week this week is

sleep

Sleep has been just a distant memory for me for a very long time, Ollie is incredibly difficult to settle at night, up until april this year he was still sleeping in my bed ( he’s 9) and although we eventually cracked that, he now sleeps on a chair bed next to my bed, it was still midnight at least before he settled, I’m not sure of the science of it all but in autistic people melatonin is produced at the wrong time, or not atall and sensory issues, too light, too dark, too noisy, too quiet, the feel of the pyjamas, the bed covers can make bedtime a very long process.
Ollie gets very chatty at bedtime and every night he comes up with a million completely random questions that he needs to know the answer to immediately, I actually love Ollies natural curiosity, just not at midnight especially as I need some quiet time to wind down before I sleep.
Ollie was prescribed melatonin a year ago but never got into a routine of taking it because he didn’t like the very tired feeling it gave him, but for the last two weeks he’s been taking it every night ( his choice) in preparation for going back to school.
He’s usually asleep by ten now, which I’m hoping to Bring back a bit to 9 and I’m having a much needed winding down period before bed, I’ve been watching criminal minds on my iPad in bed, reading and blogging, when I’m ready to sleep I’m relaxed so I’m sleeping much better every night .
Because Ollie is sleeping earlier he is waking at around 7 rather than 9 so he will be well prepared for early school mornings.

Sleep is a beautiful thing, as the saying goes

without enough sleep we all become tall two year olds

The Reading Residence

Word of the week

My word of the week this week is

preparation

You may know from previous posts that my 9 year old Ollie is going to be starting his new school, in the asd unit of the school this month. Obviously just a few visits to prepare him for september, even so everything has become all about preparation.
Its actually quite easy to forget that Ollie has autism, in the sense that because he has been at home with me he’s been happy and relaxed, we haven’t had to deal with things that are usually issues such as morning routine, going on buses, sleep, we’ve fallen into a routine of no routine, and Its been good, we needed it ,but now we have to deal with the multitude of issues that come with autism and the best way to do that is prepare prepare prepare .
We made a start by getting him back on melatonin regularly, he’s sleeping earlier and earlier (I’m hoping to bring bedtime back to 9 rather than midnight) and so he’s waking earlier.
This means I can start getting him dressed earlier, a struggle because he likes to be in his pants all day every day and get him eating breakfast nice and early.
We are going to start doing practice bus rides to the school because buses are something Ollie finds very difficult, the fact is that there will be a lot of people on the bus so we need to be prepared for that, ear defenders at the ready.
Im talking to Ollie a lot about school trying to make it a normal every day thing to talk about and preparing him by showing him his class web page a lot.
Next week he has his 3 monthly camhs review and we are going to get an ecg done (routine) so that he can be prescribed medication to calm his tics a little. Another part of preparation for school.

I think preparation is the key here to a (hopefully) quite painless transition in to school.
Of course it could all fly out the window if we are hit by a massive meltdown on day one…..but I will be prepared for that too!

The Reading Residence

Word of the week

My word of the week is

Nostalgia

It all began when the 16 year old asked me to buy the breakfast club on dvd , we then went on to make a list of 80’s movies we want to watch.
We watched the breakfast club on saturday and although I saw it hundreds of times as a teen I hadn’t seen it since .
I enjoyed it every bit as much now as I did then.
On the sunday we watched Dirty Dancing, which reminded me I need to watch it more often , Mr Swayze, yes please !
Since then I’ve bought My girl and Stand by me, for this weekend.
On thursday night me, my sister and the kids were playing music from when we were young, we remembered how I loved Shakin Stevens , and played his songs, then wham, we played songs that remind us of our stepdad, save the last dance, when Irish eyes are smiling, and then we went through my cds , we listened to brown eyed girl, dance the night away , oh what a night, hi ho silver, dancing queen…and so many more.

It was all a real blast from the past!

The Reading Residence

The week that was…

This week was an emotional one as you may know from previous posts.
The panels decision on Ollies school placement was the best news we’ve had in a very long time. But it was nerve wracking waiting for the decision.
Ive really been enjoying blogging this week, I joined in with quite a few linkys. The theme game and the prompt were two I just discovered this week, you can see my posts here and here they are both great linkys and well worth taking a look at.
I joined in with word of the week again here, another linky I really enjoy.
Some lovely blogs have joined in with my pick a positive linky so far this week , I love reading the positive posts.
My favourite post this week was my Fit Friday post go on take another look .

Apart from the usual weekend arguments discussions about the kids actually doing something helpful its been a lovely weekend , We watched The Breakfast Club, which although I watched often as a teen I hadn’t seen for a very long time, its now reclaimed its spot as my favourite ever movie, this morning we had a lovely walk through the cemetery, theres a lovely photo here and then we watched Dirty Dancing on dvd who doesn’t love dirty dancing , right ?
The music…and of course Patrick Swayze.
I did have a little rant about the sexism I saw in McDonalds though that post is here

I’m continually amazed by all the lovely comments I’m receiving on the blog, hopefully by joining in with linkys such as The prompt and the theme game which really inspire you to write I will get better and better at this blogging thing.
I really do like to write! Who knew?

Its been a good week, hopefully this coming week I will hear more about Ollie starting school so I can start preparing him and Im looking forward to continuing 80’s movie nights with Pretty in Pink next weekend.

How was your week?
What plans do you have for the coming week?